Diabetes Talking

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Nicotine withdrawl from second hand smoke Sibling rivalries that result in boundary violation. Misconceptions of reality based on Television, Radio and other influences (lies). Undiagnosed health issues such as diabetes, allergies, etc. These are extremes many of us do not take into consideration as we go through life, and in not putting them into perspective we are doomed to seek out or perpetuate extremes in our lives. I’ve found that keeping a diary, and making notes to myself about my past and the things that have been done to me, allows me to love myself despite the things I’ve done to others. This allows me to cancel out the extremes and maintain balance. I feel that many of us who are abused or abusers, are simply in a position of not being able to break from the extremes we have come to accept as normal. Typically, the abuser and the abused are the same person. The cycle alternates back and forth. Their common bond is extremes. The difference is perceptions. One hallucinates, the other manipulates. Abusers hallucinate that the world is working against them, so they go to extremes in behavior, voice or action. The abused expect the world to work against them, so they manipulate their world creating extremes that validate this perception of reality. To break free is to acknowledge what feels bad, and deal with it directly. This can mean the pain of living alone, without the kids, without securities, etc. But it must be done in order to break free. Once again, I’ve found that keeping a diary in order to remember where the extremes are is a good start. Additionally, this helps cultivate a relationship with the self, which ultimately makes anyone stronger. Thanks for listening.

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Nicotine withdrawl from second hand smoke Sibling rivalries that result in boundary violation. Misconceptions of reality based on Television, Radio and other influences (lies). Undiagnosed health issues such as diabetes, allergies, etc.

Black and Blue, I’ve considered the same, and I agree. Abuse is an extreme in behavior and it took extremes to bring people to that point. Extremes exist in many different forms, and you’re right in pointing out the subtle and more accepted forms of extremes, like second hand smoke and childrens rivalries. I remember once, my nephew was beating up on his younger brother, and I told them to stop it, while my brother was sitting there doing nothing. He said for me to shut up and I said it was wrong for them to be fighting like that. He said it was normal. No, gaming is normal, and active rough housing is normal. Physically abusing and making your brother cry isn’t. What is even more scary is the level of abuse that children go through as infants. We may never know the magnitude of these conditions, and may never fully understand the implications it has had, or will have on our society. Our world is full of angry people who seem to go mad at the drop of a hat. People who have had priveledged lives even.  How can adults who grow up in what appears to be loving families, be so violent? I think the answer lies in what happened to them as infants. Thanks for posting your thoughts.

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